I’m sorry this has happened. As an expat who lived in The Netherlands for two years, I can’t help but recognize the characteristic rude/bluntness that Dutch people are a bit infamous for. If it makes you feel any better, they said rude things to us all the time about anything and everything, and we are American and Australian. Dutch rudeness was a big reason we didn’t stay there. That, and bad healthcare. I think they are also super racist on the whole. When we lived there, no one was even asking the question about how racist Zwarte Peit is. I arrived in the weeks before Xmas, and I was was like “WTF is this???” It went downhill from there.